VOICES OF KCCNYC ADOPTEES: JON’S STORY
Voices of KCCNYC Adoptees: Jon’s Story
By Jon Oaks
Photo Credit: Jon Oaks
Growing up as a Korean American adoptee in the Midwest shaped my identity in ways I’m still discovering today. I was adopted from Seoul, South Korea, when I was about 3 months old, and was raised in Michigan communities where I was often the only Asian person in my neighborhood or school. Although my parents tried to introduce me to Korean culture through cultural groups, embracing my Korean heritage wasn’t too important to me as a child.
Like many transnational adoptees, I had to deal with many types of stereotypes and biases. I was frequently judged by my appearance, sometimes positively—like being assumed to excel at math—but often negatively, through bullying and exclusion. These experiences deeply influenced my journey toward becoming a math educator, where I now emphasize to my students the importance of breaking stereotypes and valuing diverse perspectives.
Education became my escape and my anchor. Early exposure to math sparked my interest, but I also faced challenges, like learning English and overcoming speech difficulties. Despite these hurdles, I persevered, graduating as valedictorian of my high school and later pursuing a degree in mathematics. Along the way, I faced the complexities of being an adoptee—wondering about my birth family, dealing with feelings of loss, and grappling with whether to search for answers.
Jon in the 2nd grade when he only got the 2nd place ribbons. Photo Credit: Jon Oaks
Now as an adult, finding my place within the adoptee community has been transformative. Through the Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network (KAAN), I connected with others who share similar experiences and discovered new ways to support the adoptee community. Since attending my first KAAN Conference in 2018, I’ve been involved as a member of the Communications Committee where I help maintain the organization’s website and assist with technical support at conferences. KAAN has provided me with a space to share stories, build meaningful connections, and foster support year-round—not just during conferences.
In addition to my work with KAAN, I am actively involved in adoptee outreach on a local level. Social media initially helped me connect with adoptees in the Detroit area, but I realized many adoptees aren’t on those platforms. I’ve made it a mission to reach out through other means, such as texting and email, to help create a supportive network for those who may feel isolated. Building these relationships has been incredibly rewarding and has enriched my sense of identity.
Jon at Imjingak (임진각) in Korea in September 2019. Photo Credit: Jon Oaks
Today, as a Professor of Mathematics at Macomb Community College, in Warren, MI, I draw on my experiences to connect with my students and advocate for inclusivity and understanding. I have been fortunate to be able to work with organizations like the American Mathematical Association of Two-Year Colleges (AMATYC) and TODOS: Mathematics for ALL, where I have contributed to initiatives focused on equity and diversity in education. Whether through teaching, organizing cultural events, or engaging in professional development, I strive to use my platform to create opportunities for others to thrive.
Reflecting on National Adoption Awareness Month, I recognize that my journey—filled with challenges, resilience, and growth—exemplifies the diverse and complex experiences adoptees bring to the world. Whether it’s through fostering connections in Detroit’s adoptee community, supporting KAAN’s mission, or mentoring students, I am grateful for the path that has led me to this moment.
